July 2nd, 2009
09:23 PM ET
5 years ago

Jenny Sanford speaks out

Jenny Sanford released a statement Thursday about her husband’s affair.
Jenny Sanford released a statement Thursday about her husband’s affair.

(CNN) - Jenny Sanford, wife of South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford, is speaking out in a new statement about her husband's affair.

"Mark showed a lack of judgment in his recent actions as governor. However, his far more egregious offenses were committed against God, the institutions of marriage and family, our boys and me," Mrs. Sanford said in a statement. "Mark has stated that his intent and determination is to save our marriage, and to make amends to the people of South Carolina. I hope he can make good on those intentions, and for the sake of our boys I leave the door open to it."

Full statement after the jump

Statement from First Lady Jenny Sanford

Columbia, S.C. – July 2, 2009- The last week has been very painful for me, my family and for the people of South Carolina. However, throughout this terrible ordeal, the incredible outpouring of kindness, support, and prayer I've received from countless friends and folks I have never even met has been truly uplifting. I appreciate that more than I can say. Please know that my sons and I are doing fine, given the circumstances. We are surrounded by friends and family, and we will make it through this. I believe it is how we respond to the challenges we face in life, and what we learn from them, that is most telling about who we truly are.

There is no question that Mark's behavior is inexcusable. Actions have consequences and he will be dealing with those consequences for a long while. Trust has been broken and will need to be rebuilt. Mark will need to earn back that trust, first and foremost with his family, and also with the people of South Carolina.

The real issue now is one of forgiveness. I am willing to forgive Mark for his actions. We have been deeply disappointed in and even angry at Mark. The Bible says, "In your anger do not sin." (Psalm 4:4) In this situation, this speaks to the essence of forgiveness and the critical need to channel one's energy into positive steps that uphold the dignity of marriage and the family, and lead to reconciliation over time. My forgiveness is essential for us both to move on with our lives, with peace, in whatever direction that may take us.

Desmond Tutu said "forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew." Forgiveness opens the door for Mark to begin to work privately, humbly and respectfully toward reconciliation with me. However, to achieve true reconciliation will take time, involve repentance, and will not be easy.

Mark showed a lack of judgment in his recent actions as governor. However, his far more egregious offenses were committed against God, the institutions of marriage and family, our boys and me. Mark has stated that his intent and determination is to save our marriage, and to make amends to the people of South Carolina. I hope he can make good on those intentions, and for the sake of our boys I leave the door open to it. In that spirit of forgiveness, it is up to the people and elected officials of South Carolina to decide whether they will give Mark another chance as well.


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soundoff (285 Responses)
  1. ol cranky

    @Tom Casey – Not only was Sanford derelict in his duties by leaving the state without making any arrangements to be able to be reached by his staff, he used taxpayer money to pay for his trip to Argentina. The fact that he just wrote a check to the state to pay for his most recent trip after being caught doesn't mean he didn't steal. These are the reasons he should resign.

    FWIW – adultery is still on the books as being illegal in SC

    July 2, 2009 04:18 pm at 4:18 pm |
  2. Davey

    I dont understand how their marriage can be repaired at this point; Mark made it very clear that Jenny is not his "soulmate". The governor loves his mistress more than his wife, therefore their marriage is a political sham.

    July 2, 2009 04:18 pm at 4:18 pm |
  3. Lucy

    What an insult to any sane-minded women! In an AP audio interview, he said that he would die happy knowing he had finally met his soulmate, his mistress, and that he is "trying to fall back in love with his wife".

    Fall back in love with his wife?! Please let this psychopath go!

    July 2, 2009 04:18 pm at 4:18 pm |
  4. Laurie in Lawrence, KS

    Both of them are nut jobs, and both of them are loving the media spotlight.

    July 2, 2009 04:18 pm at 4:18 pm |
  5. DemGrl89

    Grace, class and dignity. He is not worthy of her.

    July 2, 2009 04:18 pm at 4:18 pm |
  6. the southern progressive

    for the sake of your boys...

    so you want to teach your boys that you should suffer through infedility of a spouse, while the spouse is spouting that someone else is the love of their life, but he will try to make it work with someone who is not. what kind of lesson is that.

    i think..

    for the sake of your boys, you need to kick your adulterating husband to the curb and help me pass a law that bans adulterers from remarrying, in order to truly protect the sancitity of marriage from people who have no repect for the vows of matrimony. cause you cant have your cake and eat it too...

    thats is the lesson you should teach your boys.

    lol

    July 2, 2009 04:19 pm at 4:19 pm |
  7. Samuel

    He's got to decide whats more important. Politics, his wife and family or his Brazilian floozy. And there's no such thing as choose all of the above or two out of three. Idiot!

    July 2, 2009 04:19 pm at 4:19 pm |
  8. SaintGenesius

    Prior to this I had a great deal of respect for how she was handling this situation –not now.

    Wow, talk about sounding like a moron. Frankly, who cares about your belief in god or the bible or Bishop Tutu?

    She was doing better when she just shut up. If this is a private matter, keep it to yoursefl.

    SG

    July 2, 2009 04:19 pm at 4:19 pm |
  9. Sam

    Since he has said publicly that his mistress is his "soul mate," I think his wife should take him to the cleaners in divorce court and get their children away from his sneaking, lying, hypocritical ways.

    July 2, 2009 04:20 pm at 4:20 pm |
  10. ONE LOVE

    He should be tested for HIV immediately!!

    July 2, 2009 04:20 pm at 4:20 pm |
  11. Moderate Democrat

    I commend Mrs. Sanford. Despite being a republican, she seems to be a class act. Her only mistake was marrying a republican. The rest of the world and united states could have predicted he would have some scandal involvement.

    I will say this, atleast his incompetence didn't kill thousands of our troops or allow innocent civilians to be lost in attacks on buildings. His incompetence was limited to his family.

    Yes folks, both parties do at times make mistakes. But the democrats are not standing upon a soap box hypocritically campaigning on "family values'. It's the hypocracy that makes Gov. Sanford an absolute dirt bag. He's worse then Clinton because he doesn't 'practice what he preaches'. He wants infidels to resign in the past, well now it's his turn.

    The man has ruined a state, along with a marriage. Par for the course when it comes to republicans. At least he didn't ruin a country, like Bush/Cheney.

    July 2, 2009 04:21 pm at 4:21 pm |
  12. Mary

    Wow, talk about the world's biggest doormat. He has said this other woman is his soul mate and she apparently thinks it is best for their kids for her to stay with this worthless excuse of a man? The whole thing is just very sad. She needs to slam the door on him as quick as possible.

    July 2, 2009 04:21 pm at 4:21 pm |
  13. K in SC

    Biblical quotes, nice, but aren't there 10 Commandments in that book too ?

    July 2, 2009 04:21 pm at 4:21 pm |
  14. They deserve each other

    Eeyuck, what a self-righteous prig, married to a self-centered egomaniac

    Please, south carolina, throw this bum out so we never have to hear about this story ever again! Pretty please?

    July 2, 2009 04:21 pm at 4:21 pm |
  15. Once You Vote Black

    I am suprised and disappointed in your statement PatriciaG because women always say tell the truth and the whole truth. But because he was honest and expressed himself you are bashing him. Could it be that you want men to tell the truth as you see it, or to suger coat it so you will like it? Besides this is not even your man so why do you have so much to say about it. Why don't you ask Jenny why she would take him back? Its because she knows that her and those bratts drove him to this point.

    July 2, 2009 04:21 pm at 4:21 pm |
  16. CKS

    Now the Republicans have their own Bill Clinton. No more reminders of the Lewinsky scandal. And to think he refused stimulus money that the state desperately needed, while enjoying trips to visit his mistress. Tsk tsk Gov. Sanford.

    July 2, 2009 04:22 pm at 4:22 pm |
  17. David

    He not only lied and cheated on his wife, but did the same to the people of SC. But I am sure she know what she was getting herself into when she married a right wing religious extremist.

    It's impossible for them to be able to live by the extreme values they try and judge others by. In the light of day, one by one... they all come crumbling down.

    Now she really has to worry about her children, we all know what the children of religious extremist are like when they grow up. Yikes!!

    July 2, 2009 04:22 pm at 4:22 pm |
  18. sylhines

    She is the strong one in the relationship as shown by her wisdom and love for her family. Rush not to judgement of the situation, and her responses. She is entitled to make a decision that is best for her and her boys, not Mark or the public. Her inner strength illustrates a beauty of the female to love and nuture the family.

    July 2, 2009 04:22 pm at 4:22 pm |
  19. Kathleen

    He needs to resign.

    He's made a mockery of his marriage, which is private but he has also make a mockery of the office of governor. To publically refer to one's mistress as their "soulmate?" There is no dignity after that.

    July 2, 2009 04:23 pm at 4:23 pm |
  20. Bebop

    She can say whatever she wants. He has said too much she will never forget. They'd have to be brainwashed together to make it in a marriage.
    Also, can he resign now ?...he's an idiot.

    July 2, 2009 04:23 pm at 4:23 pm |
  21. Sam

    There is no such thing as family business when you are a politician. If you would lie to and cheat on your closest and most trusted partner, no one else can trust you.

    July 2, 2009 04:23 pm at 4:23 pm |
  22. cjp

    I wonder why they are both so oddly compelled to air their dirty laundry to the world.

    July 2, 2009 04:23 pm at 4:23 pm |
  23. LazyCat

    Geez, people......STOP issuing statements EVERY SINGLE DAY about this private issue within your marriage!!! Both of you!!!

    July 2, 2009 04:23 pm at 4:23 pm |
  24. thetruth

    she's a brave and courageous woman and the real hero of the story. She's not a wimp, it takes real strength to stand up and be recognized–to maintain a sense of sanity, publicly–while your husband is making a fool of you daily. I give her all the credit in the world. However, he's stated that he found his soul-mate referring to his mistress. So, I don't know what assurances he gave her that would convince her that he's serious about saving their marriage. I saw him on a vid-clip last nite on the ED-schultz show...where he's sobbing, talking about GOD, ..how he found his soul-mate...and then we have those e-mails...him describing the womans..tan lines, her beautiful curves...how he reminisced about kissing her...It seems like he fell in love and doesn't know what to do. He should be talking to his psych, his wife, GOD, or his mistress...he shouldn't be on tv everyday with more "revelations"–pun intended–about his affair. I've heard enough, and it's very embarrassing & damaging for the family. Either quit the girl and work it out with the family and stay, or get with the girl and resign.

    July 2, 2009 04:23 pm at 4:23 pm |
  25. RUTY

    Once a cheater–always a cheater.

    July 2, 2009 04:23 pm at 4:23 pm |
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