July 2nd, 2009
09:23 PM ET
5 years ago

Jenny Sanford speaks out

Jenny Sanford released a statement Thursday about her husband’s affair.
Jenny Sanford released a statement Thursday about her husband’s affair.

(CNN) - Jenny Sanford, wife of South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford, is speaking out in a new statement about her husband's affair.

"Mark showed a lack of judgment in his recent actions as governor. However, his far more egregious offenses were committed against God, the institutions of marriage and family, our boys and me," Mrs. Sanford said in a statement. "Mark has stated that his intent and determination is to save our marriage, and to make amends to the people of South Carolina. I hope he can make good on those intentions, and for the sake of our boys I leave the door open to it."

Full statement after the jump

Statement from First Lady Jenny Sanford

Columbia, S.C. – July 2, 2009- The last week has been very painful for me, my family and for the people of South Carolina. However, throughout this terrible ordeal, the incredible outpouring of kindness, support, and prayer I've received from countless friends and folks I have never even met has been truly uplifting. I appreciate that more than I can say. Please know that my sons and I are doing fine, given the circumstances. We are surrounded by friends and family, and we will make it through this. I believe it is how we respond to the challenges we face in life, and what we learn from them, that is most telling about who we truly are.

There is no question that Mark's behavior is inexcusable. Actions have consequences and he will be dealing with those consequences for a long while. Trust has been broken and will need to be rebuilt. Mark will need to earn back that trust, first and foremost with his family, and also with the people of South Carolina.

The real issue now is one of forgiveness. I am willing to forgive Mark for his actions. We have been deeply disappointed in and even angry at Mark. The Bible says, "In your anger do not sin." (Psalm 4:4) In this situation, this speaks to the essence of forgiveness and the critical need to channel one's energy into positive steps that uphold the dignity of marriage and the family, and lead to reconciliation over time. My forgiveness is essential for us both to move on with our lives, with peace, in whatever direction that may take us.

Desmond Tutu said "forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew." Forgiveness opens the door for Mark to begin to work privately, humbly and respectfully toward reconciliation with me. However, to achieve true reconciliation will take time, involve repentance, and will not be easy.

Mark showed a lack of judgment in his recent actions as governor. However, his far more egregious offenses were committed against God, the institutions of marriage and family, our boys and me. Mark has stated that his intent and determination is to save our marriage, and to make amends to the people of South Carolina. I hope he can make good on those intentions, and for the sake of our boys I leave the door open to it. In that spirit of forgiveness, it is up to the people and elected officials of South Carolina to decide whether they will give Mark another chance as well.


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soundoff (285 Responses)
  1. Marilyn, Powell Ohio

    This man seems to have some emotional and/or mental problems. He is not capable of being a Governor. Why would Mrs. Sanford want to stay with this man after he has said he had other "emotional" affairs, whatever that is, and the Argentina chick is his "soulmate." Maybe she has her own issues because I wouldn't be able to sit across the table from a husband like him. Birds of a feather..........

    July 2, 2009 04:31 pm at 4:31 pm |
  2. Nothing 'Stand Up' about John Ensign

    Forgive the liar who showed no remorse (he continued to lied to reporters about where he was even after he got caught) and forget, eh?

    Well, good luck with your marriage...

    July 2, 2009 04:32 pm at 4:32 pm |
  3. Midge from Ohio

    I was so proud of her the other day, what a strong person. Now she has gone into the cattle pen with all the other cheated on politicians wives, she is no better. As a woman I really am sad about this.

    July 2, 2009 04:32 pm at 4:32 pm |
  4. KO

    Wow, my opinion of Ms. Sanford sinks lower with every statement she releases. She's like school in the summertime - no class.

    July 2, 2009 04:33 pm at 4:33 pm |
  5. katiec

    My heart goes out to her and her sons.
    What a hypocritical, egomaniac buffoon she is married to.

    July 2, 2009 04:33 pm at 4:33 pm |
  6. The Party of NO stood calmly by for 8 year while the shrub raped and pillaged America, so, why would we listen to you now?

    Anyone that allows a spouse to state publicly in an international forum, that they are "trying to fall back in love" with the slighted spouse and accepts this as "remorse" is a doormat, with WELCOME written across their forehead.

    July 2, 2009 04:34 pm at 4:34 pm |
  7. Gary Jaussaud

    Gary's comment is:

    I my view Mrs. Jenny Sanford has shown a lot of class thru this whole
    ordeal her husband has put her thru. Her first care is for her children
    as it should be, and she should give her husband the boot!!! There
    lives togeather will never be the same as Jenny Sanford is not his
    sole mate!! only his wife. I say get rid of him and move on.

    July 2, 2009 04:34 pm at 4:34 pm |
  8. kenny cole

    if you don'tdo it good someone else will do

    July 2, 2009 04:34 pm at 4:34 pm |
  9. Rick Ashford

    She is a Wall Street executive so she is likely to be quite conniving and strategic in her "press releases." In fact he might have found gentle solace in the arms of his Buenos Aires lady friend far away from the tense Wall Street atmosphere at home.

    July 2, 2009 04:34 pm at 4:34 pm |
  10. Tom

    Well, now that she's backed down, it shows she's most likely been "bought".

    July 2, 2009 04:34 pm at 4:34 pm |
  11. JimR

    Seems to me that Jenny doesn't want to give up the Guv's sweet income – after all, we're in a recession, and I don't know many high paying jobs for disgraced government officials...

    July 2, 2009 04:35 pm at 4:35 pm |
  12. RUSH NEXT

    She cant be that stupid...this man is sleeping with women who are probably sleeping with other men and she takes him back...Thats a slap in the face for women who stayed at home respecting their husband and got diseases. MS SANFORD he will do it again. Leave him and find a young man who will respect you and your children. Your a fool to take him back and for the people of his state...get rid of the LOOSER....and set an example if his wife wont.

    July 2, 2009 04:36 pm at 4:36 pm |
  13. Cassandra Washington

    What a silly woman. So the best role model she think of for her kids is a philandering husband and she spouts off with Bible verses to show what a wise woman she is? He cheated, Jenny, and he will cheat again. Even privileged, rich, women are not immune to cheating husbands. So, get over him and get on with your life.

    July 2, 2009 04:36 pm at 4:36 pm |
  14. Melissa

    I was impressed with her the other day. Now I'm just disgusted. She's just like the rest of the foolish Republican women. Cowed and useless.

    July 2, 2009 04:36 pm at 4:36 pm |
  15. Doug

    PLEASE, Jenny, this pig won't change.

    THROW THE BUM OUT.
    Have some SELF-RESPECT.

    July 2, 2009 04:38 pm at 4:38 pm |
  16. Nothing 'Stand Up' about John Ensign

    Forgive the liar who showed no remorse (he continued to lie to reporters about where he was even after he got caught) and forget, eh?

    Well, good luck with your marriage…

    Sanford is a shameless hypocrite who will have to be forced out.

    Btw, speaking of shameless politicians like Sanford, Craig and Vitter who need to be forced out of office, Senator John Ensign (R-NV) should be removed from office for the way he doubled his mistress’s salary during his affair with her, according to federal election documents, and then fired her when the affair ended. There is nothing stand up about him, and a person like that should not have the power of a United States Senator or be a holder of any other office that allows him to make decisions about how we allocate our country’s resources.

    July 2, 2009 04:38 pm at 4:38 pm |
  17. truesclibber

    I am having more than a little trouble with all of this...First of all I am appalled at the governor for his actions; I am more than a little disconcerted by a mother who would hang onto a bad marriage for the sake of the children. Mothers protect their offspring even from their fathers who sometime eat their young. I truly respect the Christian family and the Holy Bible but do not hide behind it. Mrs. Sanford has insinuated that she helped create the man the governor is when she was a Wall Street exec. She should have been aware that the person you create can become the monster you have to control..shame on her if this is what she created and did become responsible for it. It takes 2 to make a marriage and 2 to break one.

    July 2, 2009 04:39 pm at 4:39 pm |
  18. PK California

    DO NOT CONTINUE THIS MARRIAGE! You will never be able to trust him. Don't put your boys through this! This is NOT your fault! He is a man who puts himself and his desires first. Don't be a martyr to save his soul. He already gave it to the devil!

    July 2, 2009 04:39 pm at 4:39 pm |
  19. olypengirl

    If Mrs. sanford really wants to show her children what a strong person is, she should not cower behind these patheltic preachings from other people and her religion. Be strong Jenny, you were betrayed, lied to , and made a fool. Why would you want to add to the embarassment by standing by such a loser? For the children? I think not...they, too would be better off without such an example of fatherhood. Stand strong, stand alone!

    July 2, 2009 04:39 pm at 4:39 pm |
  20. Tag

    I think if she eviscerated him on the courthouse steps with a carving knife at high noon – Most everybody would applaud her and ask her why she waited so long to do it.

    July 2, 2009 04:40 pm at 4:40 pm |
  21. Once You Vote Black

    He should ditch her if Maria will take him. Don't be fooled by this lady. Is she was not sitting on it he would not have had to cheat.

    July 2, 2009 04:41 pm at 4:41 pm |
  22. FarmerBill

    This is the same woman who was lauded for not standing next to her husband at a press conference. The more she speaks, the more she appears to be as pathetic as her husband. Accept the facts, lady. Your husband doesn't love you, but will force himself to feel desire for her again while he pines for his soulmate. Is that a life, or an example to set for your children? Walk away while you and your boys still have some dignity and start a new life, otherwise you risk becoming an object of pity like Ted Haggard's wife and all those "brave christian" women who stand bravely by their miscreant husbands as they wrestle with their inner desires.

    July 2, 2009 04:41 pm at 4:41 pm |
  23. Enough already

    He screwed up many times, she for some reason is willing to consider forgiving him if he works really hard. Got it. At first the situation was scandalous, then it got weird, now its just tedious. Let us hope this is the last we hear from either of them on the state of their marriage short of an announcement that they are patched up or calling it quits.

    July 2, 2009 04:41 pm at 4:41 pm |
  24. Sandra in Texas

    Wow...Jenny, forgive him for your own good. BUT, don't ever forget it. To forgive doesn't mean you give up your self-respect and take him back. It means you forgive him so you don't hold on to the anger...forgive him for your own good–while tossing him to the curb! The people of So. Carolina can figure the rest out for themselves!

    July 2, 2009 04:42 pm at 4:42 pm |
  25. Mike in Michigan

    Come on people! What she is attempting to do is, by showing grace, help her husband maintain what little dignity he has left and to work on reconciliation and rebuilding the broken trust.

    All too often, people want to crush those who have made major mistakes. He wants to maintain a career, while trying to rebuild his brokenness. Well, most people lack forgiveness and want to completely shut the door and never ever hear from this man.

    His sin is no more than any other person's – when's the last time you spoke ill of someone, cursed a bad driver, or cursed God for your trials and tribulations, even subconsciously? That's no better than an adulterous. At least he's attempting to make amends – are you?

    July 2, 2009 04:42 pm at 4:42 pm |
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