10-year-old with same-sex parents finds pen pal in President Obama
November 20th, 2012
01:35 PM ET
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10-year-old with same-sex parents finds pen pal in President Obama

(CNN) - When Sophia Bailey-Klugh, a 10-year-old, invited President Barack Obama to dinner, she didn't get a response.

So when he replied to her second letter–this one thanking him for his position on same-sex marriage–the girl with two fathers was really surprised.

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One of Sophia's fathers, Jonathan Bailey, posted the letter to Facebook on October 28, saying Sophia penned the piece "unprompted" and it made her two fathers "so unbelievably proud."

"Dear Barack Obama," she wrote. "It's Sophia Bailey Klugh your friend who invited you to dinner. You don't remember okay that's fine. But I just wanted to tell you that I am so glad you agree that two men can love each other because I have two dads and they love each other."

Sophia, who lives with her fathers in San Diego, California, went on to write about how other students at her school say her parents' marriage is "gross and weird."

"It really hurts my heart and feelings, so I come to you because you are my hero," she wrote, asking for advice on what he would do if he were in her shoes.

"I hope you win on being the president. You would totally make the world a better place," she ended the letter. "Please tell your daughters hi for me!"

Also on the page was a drawing of her two dads kissing, with the word "love" written overhead.

From Jonathan Bailey's Facebook page

A week later, Jonathan posted a letter with the president's letterhead at the top. It was dated November 1 and addressed to Sophia.

"Thank you for writing me such a thoughtful letter about your family. Reading it made me proud to be your president and even more hopeful about the future of our nation," the letter stated.

"In America, no two families look the same. We celebrate this diversity," Obama continued. "And we recognize that whether you have two dads or one mom what matters above all is the love we show one another. You are very fortunate to have two parents who care deeply for you. They are lucky to have such an exceptional daughter in you."

From Jonathan Bailey's Facebook page

Shortly after North Carolina voters approved a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage in May, Obama announced in a televised interview that he had "evolved" in his position on the issue and believed two people of the same gender should legally be allowed to wed.

Americans have largely been divided on the issue of same-gender marriage. According to CNN Exit Polls from Election Day, 49% of Americans said they agreed that same-sex marriage should be legal in their respective state, while 46% disagreed.

Obama overwhelmingly won the support of those who identified themselves of gay, lesbian or bisexual–76% to Mitt Romney at 22%. While Romney personally opposes same-sex marriage and civil unions, he did say he supported domestic partnership rights and favored the right for a gay couple to adopt children.

In his letter, Obama suggested that Sophia remind her friends at school about the Golden Rule: "A good rule is to treat others the way you hope they will treat you."

"Thanks again for taking the time to write me," he continued. "I'm sorry I couldn't make it to dinner, but I'll be sure to tell Sasha and Malia you say hello."

When Jonathan Bailey posted the letter from the president, he also offered his own personal thanks.

"Thank you Barack Obama – you have made one 10-year old feel mighty special (and her two dads too)," he wrote in the caption of the photo.

Filed under: 2012 • President Obama • Same-sex marriage
soundoff (393 Responses)
  1. filth

    This man doesn't represent those who follow the Biblical teachings of one man, one woman. He is the beginning of evil and our nation has begun the decline with him. Gays, drugs, filth. He has demonstrated that he represents the evil of our society, not the pure.

    November 20, 2012 07:50 pm at 7:50 pm |
  2. Brian

    Can't get him to balance a budget but he is good at opportune photo opps and feel good stories....our society has really dum'd down

    November 20, 2012 07:53 pm at 7:53 pm |
  3. Duh

    I think this is so sweet and very cool. Think about it, when everyone is gay and very few children are born there will be less and less people until we are all dead.

    November 20, 2012 08:05 pm at 8:05 pm |
  4. Orb4

    Thank you President Obama!

    November 20, 2012 08:19 pm at 8:19 pm |
  5. Minchia

    Violence is natural. Deception is natural. Thievery is natural. A whole lot of lousy human emotions are perfectly natural. The point isn't to act like we're animals, it's to be calculated and logical. That's the root of civilization. Without some morality or logic, we end up being the cavemen that we all are inside. Do you like cities, or roads, or plumbing??? ... Then drop this whole human nature nonsense.

    November 20, 2012 08:22 pm at 8:22 pm |
  6. BobbaFeyette

    Wow. Everything based on emotion. What feels good – that's all that matters. Against gay marriage? You must be a bigot. Against abortion? Oh you must hate women. This is the debating prowess of the left.

    November 20, 2012 08:28 pm at 8:28 pm |
  7. h.kollus

    Wilson. its Time for you to Crawl back to the cave you Came from. theres a Very good saying. When you Have nothing worthwile to say say nothing. take Your Bigoted views to a site that agrees with you Like any Rebublican site. for those of us that Are educated and informed. your bigotry bores us.

    November 20, 2012 08:30 pm at 8:30 pm |
  8. Larry L

    Why not just make the "marriage" sanctioned by the government a standard contractual agreement designed to define and protect those rights and responsibilities for joint property ownership and custody of dependent family members? Why is gender or sexual orientation a requirement for this sort of contract? Let the religious organizations marry those they choose and reject those they feel should not be "blessed" by their God. Why should government be in the business of recognizing religious ceremonies? How is that covered by the Constitution or Bill of Rights?

    November 20, 2012 08:41 pm at 8:41 pm |
  9. Mar Jax

    Kudos to the young girl who wrote to the President. If itweren't for her loving Gay or LGBTQ adoptive parents she would not have thrived well in a Foster Home that TAX payers will foot the bill for. LGBTQ parents serve their purpose in this country. Let them be. Regardless who is in Office, this purpose is obvious if not from an economic standpoint

    November 20, 2012 08:45 pm at 8:45 pm |
  10. GOP = Greed Over People

    It has been in my life time, that black and white marriages were considered "unnatural" and "perverted" and the resulting "swirl baby" was ridiculed by class mates.

    Today, one of those "swirl babies" is the leader of this great country.

    So, if the "chri$tians" of this great country would evolve and stop quoting the "Holy Book of Fables" as God's word, this would truly be a great world.

    Remember, the fable were told by men, written down by men and men decided what fables would be included, many centuries after the death of Jesus.

    The Holy Bible, is many things to many people, but the words of God is certainly not one of them

    November 20, 2012 09:01 pm at 9:01 pm |
  11. i'malib

    This is nice, but it would be better if obama gave me more free stuff.

    November 20, 2012 09:15 pm at 9:15 pm |
  12. SM

    Tough times for those of us who are Christians and believe in biblical principles. Heard John Stewart claim poligamy was biblical. Yet he doesn't realize the Bible doesn't omit the flaws and mistakes of history. In Eden (perfection) there were only 2 – man and woman. My heart goes out to that 10 yr old girl who is bullied because of having homosexual parents. I wish we could agree to disagree and love people in spite of our differences. May God have mercy on us all and may Jesus come soon so we can be with him and our loved ones eternally.

    November 20, 2012 09:16 pm at 9:16 pm |
  13. Allen

    The same people who condemn females for owning their own lives and accepting their own responsibility also condemn families for being so poor they must use food stamps. Jesus talked about those people when he mentioned those who lay all sorts of burdens on others which they themselves wouldn't lift a finger to help with.

    November 20, 2012 09:16 pm at 9:16 pm |
  14. Bmp2

    That is such a sweet letter and a wonderful response from a caring, compassionate president.

    If you have a problem with "gay marriage", its YOU who has the problem, not those who love each other.

    November 20, 2012 09:19 pm at 9:19 pm |
  15. Scott

    "A leader that promotes perverts."

    Who is harming this 10-year old girl more: two dads who love her or religious busybodies who call her parents "perverts"

    November 20, 2012 09:27 pm at 9:27 pm |
  16. cathy

    I too am very proud of the President and very happy for a child who so much loves and is loved by her parents. I feel sorry for the children of the angry haters and cynics who wrote some of these comments.

    November 20, 2012 09:30 pm at 9:30 pm |
  17. Tjbeck1973

    So proud of our President. So proud of this little girl and her Dads.

    November 20, 2012 09:31 pm at 9:31 pm |
  18. cthrurlies

    Our President has a loving and kind heart. I am proud of him and this nation for re-electing him.

    November 20, 2012 09:31 pm at 9:31 pm |
  19. Varun

    Love does not equal to marriage. Nor does love equal to sexual lust.

    We also love our parents, siblings, kids - but we do not marry them nor do we lust after them sexually (unless you are perverted of course).

    We all know how much you will "love" that partner if he stops your sexual gratification.

    Marriage is simply a social contract - irrespective of so-called love (or lust) - between a man and woman for facilitating the overall welfare of the human civilization.

    Yes, even heterosexual marriage is NOT about so-called love (or lust). SO there goes the love (or lust) argument for gay marriage

    November 20, 2012 09:33 pm at 9:33 pm |
  20. Opa 66

    Ihave nothing against gays. However I have just as much right to my beliefs as they. My religion teaches love but also teaches that marraige is between one man and one woman. Why do I have to listen to people cry that they are treated poorly because they are guy. Yet those same people preach hate at me for not thinking that what they are doing is right.
    If a person truely believes they can have more than one husband-wife should we pass a law making it legal. If a man or woman believes a person of 12 or younger should beallowed to wed should we change the law and allow them to marry?
    These are thinks I think are wrong also but if you want marriage to be between two men or two women then you should also support those that want more than one husband or wife or to marry a minor. You can't have it both ways.

    November 20, 2012 09:44 pm at 9:44 pm |
  21. zaperdon

    God created Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve!! We need to remember that God gave us HIV and Aids as a way of making his position quite clear on the matter. I do feel sorry for the young girl to be growing up with such perversion.

    November 20, 2012 09:52 pm at 9:52 pm |
  22. jg51

    This story brought me to tears. I feel certain this little girl will be able to face whatever hateful, mean spirited comments she may encounter with her head held high and her heart filled with love for the parents who chose to share their lives with her. I hope I live long enough to see a time when we can all accept the fact that we are a country made up of different races, religions and lifestyles who can and must learn to co-exist peacefully.

    November 20, 2012 10:07 pm at 10:07 pm |
  23. guy smiley

    God, pls deliver ds girl and her confused parents.

    November 20, 2012 10:11 pm at 10:11 pm |
  24. Alley

    Those who say that the child will grow up confused..please do not form your own opinion and look up the research that has been done on this topic before casting judgment. Children of gay parents under a positive and loving household end up being more successful and more accepting of others and more inclined to be positive. Don't believe me...do the research yourself and google it.

    November 20, 2012 10:14 pm at 10:14 pm |
  25. Ss,

    Really? Evolved? Not devolved?

    November 20, 2012 10:14 pm at 10:14 pm |
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